Office Romance: Playing With Fire
Many a workplace actively tries to discourage it but in reality they know it’s just the result of proximity and human nature. Somewhere in your work history you are going to meet someone (if you haven’t already) that you want to date.
Working an office job is normally going to bring you into contact with people of the opposite sex. It’s also the place where people have a ringside seat to see what makes you tick. Gaging how you react when you have to get the job done can decide if they want to get to know you a little more and vice versa.
Countless marriage and dating relationships have come of age in the cafeteria or at a board meeting. According to a CNN poll forty percent of the working population has had at least one office romance. To give you sense of how times have changed sixty six percent also felt there was no need to hide the relationship.
No question the workplace in general has become more favorable to the prospects of office dating but that’s probably more reason why you have to be extra careful.
In his article The Ugly Side Of Office Relationships Francis K. Githinji wrote, “A growing relationship or affair in the office is a mine field literally speaking.” If you are thinking about dating someone in the office then there are a couple of things you should definitely consider.
1. Office Policy
Be very clear on what the guidelines are before dating a co worker. Some companies frown upon it while others don’t really care much as long as both parties remain professional in the work place. If it’s not spelled out to your understanding in the employee handbook then ask human resources. If you feel awkward doing this then you can always ask a co worker who has been there for awhile but this is dicey. While they may have a good knowledge of company policy, you can’t use them as an authority if something goes wrong. Checking with human resources no matter how uncomfortable is better safe than sorry.
2. Your Productivity
Dating someone in the workplace is bound to happen for many of us but the truth is first and foremost we work so we can get paid. It requires a certain amount of efficiency and professionalism to make sure the checks keep coming. Office romances have been known to distract people from the actual job they were hired for. Even if things are going great you can easily find yourself counting the hours until the two of you meet after work instead of counting the numbers your supervisor put on your desk this morning. Having your mind somewhere else one too many times can land you in the unemployment office.
3. Who Are You Dating?
The other person is great and wonderful but can they handle seeing you for eight hours a day and being in a relationship? None of us knows until it happens but see if there are any warning signs. Do they get overly emotional or too aggressive in different situations? Maybe there’s a certain coldness about them you did not notice before or anger. Either way check it out. It could turn out to be that’s their work persona and they know how to handle their business; personal or otherwise. But there’s always the possibility that the other person is a storm ready to explode into a mess for you and the company.
4. Gossip
As sure as being attracted to someone in the office is human nature so is gossip. People want to know what’s going on in other people’s lives. The more personal the better which would explain the celebrity divorce drumbeat. In an office environment co workers are going to talk about you and your dating partner. Both of you may promise vows of secrecy but gossip has a funny way of getting around. Someone sees you and your dating partner standing by the elevator or talking to each other in a really friendly way (in their eyes) and it’s off to the races. If you can live with that fine but just understand it’s going to happen.
There’s nothing wrong with meeting someone in the office that you would like to get to know better however you still must be careful. Your objective may be to take every precaution while maintaining your professionalism and integrity, but things have a way of spinning out if control. What started out with the best of intentions could end with you looking for another dating partner and a new job.
Article written by Daryl Campbell – The Relationship Tip – Given that office dating puts the two if you in close proximity it becomes even more important to make sure you do not crowd each other
Office Romance: Playing With Fire / Author: Daryl Campbell
How To Stop Breakup – I Want To Get Back Together With My Ex
Perhaps, you have just broken up with your ex and you feel very sad about it. You still love your ex and you really want to get back together with him/her. So, what can you do to stop breakup?
Well, if you have just broken up with your ex chances are you will be very eager to contact him/her again. This is in fact what you must avoid doing.
Why is that so?
Regardless of the reason for your breakup, if your ex is the one who initiated the breakup, most likely, he/she will try to avoid you during this initial period. So you should respect his/her wish.
Furthermore, you are probably in a state of emotional turmoil yourself. Even if you manage to contact him/her, what are you going to say?
When a person is in this negative state of mind, he/she is much more likely to do things that should not be done. This will not help you in your situation. In fact, it can make the situation worse.
If you think you may have already done something that you shouldn’t do, don’t worry too much for the time being. Just stop doing it. Furthermore, there are always other things you can do to reverse your situation.
For now, just concentrate on healing your broken heart. Don’t contact your ex for around 1 month. To heal your emotion, maybe you can find a trusted friend to listen to you? Don’t keep everything to yourself. Sometimes, just by telling one person about it, you will feel so much better.
How about having some exercises. I know you don’t feel like moving now. You may not even feel like moving out of bed. But it is really important to get yourself out of the state of depression.
One thing you can be certain of is this: You don’t stand a high chance to win your ex back if you continue to be in a state of depression. So, drag yourself out of bed and get yourself to sweat. You will instantly feel much better.
Once you feel much better, you will have a much clearer mind and will be able to look at your relationship in a more objective manner. This will put you in a better position to plan what you are going to do next.
Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at
How To Stop Breakup Video
You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.
How To Stop Breakup – I Want To Get Back Together With My Ex / Author: Allan Lim